The gay marriage debate has, for the most part, come to a close. While the legislation is sure to face some legal challenges, gay couples across New York State are rejoicing at the signing of the bill by Gov. Cuomo. Of course, the cynic in me says that the group that is just as happy about the passage of gay marriage legislation as gays is divorce attorneys. They have just significantly increased their potential client base.
Frankly, I couldn't care less about this issue. If gays want to share in the bliss and angst of marriage, knock yourselves out. What I do find galling about this debate is the sickening inability of some people to win with grace. I've checked a multitude of websites, Facebook pages, message boards and the like, and the comments are ridiculous.
Supporters of gay marriage have a reason to celebrate - good for you. But why is it necessary to continue to vilify those who chose not to support it after the vote was affirmed? Is it not enough to simply enjoy your victory and move on? Apparently for many, many gay marriage supporters, it is not. The hateful comments about members of the state legislature who chose to stand by their convictions show a level of hypocrisy from supporters of gay marriage that is unfathomable.
Gay marriage supporters preached up and down about tolerance of others. Apparently that only applies to those who share their beliefs. Even after the vote, members of the legislature who didn't support the bill have been called, among many other colorful adjectives, intolerant, bigots, scumbags and racists. Just so I'm clear here, advocates of gay marriage are calling those who didn't share their views these hate-filled names. Talk about the pot calling the kettle black. So much for a rational conversation on the issue.
It reminds me of the rookie who scores his first touchdown in the NFL, then does some embarrassing end-zone celebration, only to have the veteran teammate come over to him and tell him to act like he's been there before. What the veteran is saying to the rookie is to, even in victory and celebration, have a little class and don't rub it in the face of your opposition. The analogy plays in this gay marriage vote. Supporters who continue to vilify those who opposed the legislation are the rookie dancing in the end zone. Maybe in time they'll learn to win with dignity and grace, but the immediate post-vote antics of some leave much to be desired.